What a wonderful performance!

What a wonderful performance! <<粉墨春秋>>

I am so glad that I went to watch 粉墨春秋 (Opera Warriors) by the Shan Xi (I think is 山西艺术职业学院华晋舞剧团) yesterday at Kallang Theater. I only wish I have bought a more expensive seats to be closer to the perfomers. 

All of them so professional.. Oh my god.. the music, the lights, the expressions.. each body movement.. their skills (splitting leg).. I laughed.. I teared…. It was such wonderful! I felt so satisfied after the show. 

Now, I have a new appreciation of Beijing Opera.

 

 

Photos from this site

 

Some of the media I found online. (I love the theme song).

More reports.

 

 

Moses Hng

 

 

 

Unrealistic Expectations I’ve Learnt About Life

Dear friends,

Below I share some Unrealistic Expectations I have noticed I have in my life. Unrealistic expectations bring unneeded disappointments in life. Hope you find it useful too. 

 

 #1: Life should be fair.

Life is not fair. For the lion cubs to be alive, some other animal will have to die to feed it?

 

#2: I must be happy all the time. Being unhappy is BAD.

Don’t have this belief that we must always be happy. Who told you that?

Being happy is not the only emotions in life, and there are more events, instances for us to experience unhappiness. Rather then chasing happines, learn to appreciate whatever emotions you have at THIS moment. 

Read about Mindfulness.  Emotions are like passing clouds, don’t hold on, and don’t chase after.


#3: Everyone should like me.

If you line up all the people in your life and I ask them, do you seriously think that they ALL like you? Is it possible? Do you like ALL expect of your parents, partner or friends? 

Don’t think so, It’s OK to not like certain expect of others.. so it’s not realistic to have the expectation that everyone should like you. 

 #4: I am special.

We are unique individuals, but … how special? Everyone think we are special, then its not that special. 

 

#5: Everything I want in life will happen. I don’t have to put in effort for it.

Yeah, Just WISH and PRAY for things to happen? I wish I have 6 pec, but if I don’t work out and watch my diet, it will not happen. We want that, we must pay the price. 

The thing about prayer.. do we pray for things because to suit our preferences, or hope we think Life SHOULD be? or are we praying to change our attitude to learn to accept situations? Something like, Job 1:21?

 

#6: People SHOULD understand me!

Do you understand other people? Thats how misunderstanding and lots of pain arises. How are you communicating? 

 

#7: Happiness (or other emotions) should/will last forever.

 

 #8: Things will be the same as it is permanently.

Nothing in life is forever. We grow old day by day.. Things are always changing.. Either growing older, bigger, weaker, stronger, slower or faster.. The only constant is change. 

Our emotions changes from one moment to one moment. 

The people in your life will not be there forever. Don’t wait till they are gone.. it will be too late. Tell your parents you love them already?

 

#9: Whatever I feel or think, must be true.

If i say “I will win lottery today” everyone will laugh and wish it happen. If i say “I will get into an accident today“, people usually say TOUCHWOOD! Won’t happen.. 

Please, know that your thoughts are always in our head.. but they are only thoughts!  There are no power to our thoughts unless we cannot let them go, and become “fused” with our thoughts. 

Instead of “I feel unworthy”, learn to recongise that “I have a THOUGHT, or a FEELING that say ‘I am unworthy”. Put some distant between YOU and your thoughts. This is what i learn in ACT

 

Please share with me if you have learnt otherr unrealistic expectations do you have about life? 

 

Regards

Moses Hng

 

Recent visit to Chennai, India for International Conference on Schizophrenia – ICONS 5

Recent visit to Chennai, India for International Conference on Schizophrenia – ICONS 5

I had the privilege to be sent by the office to attend the Fifth International Conference on Schizophrenia  (ICONS 5) in Chennai, India from 21-23 Sep 2012. 

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It was a gathering of psychiatrist, neuroscientists, therapists, anthropologist, psychologists from India and around the world. Truly it has been an enriching experience for me, as a case manager, to be able to have a glimpse into the latest researches happening around world related to Schizophrenia.

I gave a short presentation to my colleagues when I came back to Singapore to share about what was inspiring for me. (Link to my slides if doesn’t show up)

 

First was Asst/Prof Tony Henderson from University of Western Australia research on how Youth responded to first episode psychosis and the importance of Resilience. How it is very helpful (if it’s true) in imparting that knowledge and skills to young people. 

Second, Asst/Prof Lawrence H. Yang (Assistant Professor of  Epidemiology) from Columbia University.. the Idea of Culture and Stigma.. the importance of taking into consideration that different cultures have different values to consider “a person”, and how illness/diseases can have impact on that core. 

Dr Mohan Agashe and Dr. Anand Nadkarni shared finally on the use of Media in our work. The difference between Text and Subtext.. the use of Images and Music to engage the audience. 

There are many more ideas shared during the conference. Looking forward to more conferences in future :)

 

 

Regards

Moses Hng

 

 

 

 

I am free from Cynicism!

I AM FREE FROM CYNICISM! 

 

 

Sunday. A friend of mine, asked me over coffee, whether I am happy.. as he has observed that I seems to have lost my cheerfulness, and seems to always look sad. He asked if it’s time for me to change job (For i work in a mental hospital, surrounded by “negativity” he said).

 

Frankly, it’s not the first time friends has mentioned this to me, they all said that I used to be happier, and was more “fun”.

 

I used to believe that I have grew “matured” and “wiser” because of my job. I thought it’s part of self-development, to be able to project “professional calm” -i.e Nothing will shock or surprise me. This is useful when you have to handle crisis and to manage the raw emotions from your clients during counselling sessions.

 

Realization 
However, recently I’ve indeed noticed something troubling about myself – I am unable to fully experience whatever I am doing. I have somehow become “detached” and apart. I am not sure if it’s a occupational hazard, span from the implicit need to have some emotional detachment between client and me.

 

Thinking about this, I have received a revelation, that instead of becoming “matured”, I have actually became a Cynical, Skeptical, Negative and Distrustful person.

 

In the effort to take care of myself, and my family, I learnt to make preemptive plans for the future, and for the worse, dissect what people says..second guess intentions, not to trust people too easily and accept the “dog eat dog” logic of the world.

 

Whenever I make plans for the future, I was “realistic”, that means I only see  problems, different ways of how a plan can fail, the “what ifs”.  Soon, my world views became distorted, and deluded…unknowingly, Life to me slowly equates to problems, disappointment and pain.

 

In the process, this cynicism is like the parable (Luke 8:7), it grows like thorny bush, and suffocate mes, and is killing me inside out! I have let the Cares of life zap the life out of me!
I lost my “innocence” and “freshness” and Vitality.. I became a zombie.

 

The Breakthrough
When I reflect more, I came to understand where is this need to “plan for the worse” comes from. From my fear, that “if I don’t plan, something BAD will happen and I will lose something, or be disappointed”… and a belief that “I need to take care of myself and my family, with MY effort and MY abilities, by MY power”.

 

Immediately, I see the light… How foolish of me! Do I not have faith to believe that God can provide? Do I not have faith that He can care for me? (Matthew 6:25, Luke 12:22, Philippians 4:6) The answer is FAITH.. Faith in God.. Faith in humanity.. Faith in Faith! Why did i lost that faith? When I don’t have faith in anything anymore, i am a kill joy, I become grumble.. I lost sight.. i don’t know what is the purpose..

 

But take heed to yourselves and be on your guard, lest your hearts be overburdened and depressed (weighed down) with the giddiness and headache and nausea of self-indulgence, drunkenness, and worldly worries and cares pertaining to [the business of] this life, and [lest] that day come upon you suddenly like a trap or a noose;..”  Luke 21:34

 

So. After having such insight, I smiled. I feel the scales from my eye fell off, i feel lighter, liberated and free! I smiled! I am aware of my negativity and cynicism now.. and with a renewed mind, I feel I don’t have to fear, and worry, I don’t have to “fend for myself”.

 

I can see how powerful our mind, beliefs, thoughts are, it’s not the kind of JOB that shape you… your attitude and outlook shape your life and the environment you are in!
I give thanks to the Lord for His grace.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Moses Hng

 

Celebrating Grandma’s 91st Birthday. Four generation together.

Grandma with her children.
Grandpa passed away at at young age, when my mum was 8years old. She single handedly raised her children by tapping rubber trees.

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Grandma with most of her children. 
Eldest daughter passed away due to cancer. Eldest son working, unable to attend the birthday.

It’s amazing listening to Grandma tell her stories, her experience, her wisdom… I wish I can do a memoir for her, record all her memories. I hope, We, younger generations will not lost the appreciation for our Elders.

Moses Hng